There's nothing wrong with being picky. But no game out there will meet all of your preferences. IMO, I think each player needs to decide what they are and are not willing to put up with, because something will always come up that is frustrating, even on the game that best suits your tastes.

If admin issues or lack of rp are two big things you won't put up with, but auto-combat is something you can deal with, it sounds like giving DartMud another chance would be worth doing. If you are interested in focusing on RP and not on gaining skills/leveling/advancing stats, I would recommend trying a Mush instead of a Mud. It likely won't have all the mechanics you are used to, but if you choose well, you'll meet a lot of great rpers who can guide you toward other games as well.

Sapphar